SEXUAL ADDICTION
WEB-SITES
Stonegate: A biblical intensive counseling ministry dedicated to helping people experience freedom to sexual addiction. This web link will take you to their suggested resources.
XXXchurch: Designed to bring awareness, openness and accountability to those affected by pornography.
Harvest USA: This ministry seeks to proclaim Christ as Lord to a sexually broken world. The purpose of Harvest USA is to partner with and equip the church in bringing the power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to transform the lives of those affected by sexual sin.
Fight the New Drug: Recommended by MTW counselor, Rich Greete. Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.
Undone Redone: Recommended by Steve Brown. Undone Redone is dedicated to restoring individuals and married couples who have been hurt by sexual addiction, sexual trauma, unfaithfulness and pornography and to offer prevention and protection for families. We believe His Grace is sufficient to rescue, no matter how challenging the circumstance. We are here to help you on the journey to restoration.
Stonegate: A biblical intensive counseling ministry dedicated to helping people experience freedom to sexual addiction. This web link will take you to their suggested resources.
XXXchurch: Designed to bring awareness, openness and accountability to those affected by pornography.
Harvest USA: This ministry seeks to proclaim Christ as Lord to a sexually broken world. The purpose of Harvest USA is to partner with and equip the church in bringing the power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to transform the lives of those affected by sexual sin.
Fight the New Drug: Recommended by MTW counselor, Rich Greete. Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.
Undone Redone: Recommended by Steve Brown. Undone Redone is dedicated to restoring individuals and married couples who have been hurt by sexual addiction, sexual trauma, unfaithfulness and pornography and to offer prevention and protection for families. We believe His Grace is sufficient to rescue, no matter how challenging the circumstance. We are here to help you on the journey to restoration.
I. INTERNET FILTERS/ ACCOUNTABILITY
A. AVG family safetyThis was rated the number one resource in 2012 to protect from looking at from unsuitable websites
and monitoring web-searches searches. Available for both computers and mobile devices.
B. www.covenanteyes.com
This Accountability software monitors Internet use and emails reports to people you select. It also blocks objectionable websites from your computer.
C. http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2346997,00.aspThis is a comprehensive list filters and blocks as of 12/11.
II. PDF article (free)Sexual Detox- A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn By: Tim Challies. In a short, compressed format Challies identifies the toxic nature of this sin and offers practical, doable and, above all, gospel-centered hope for men. "I want every man I serve and all the guys on our staff to read this book."-- Tedd Tripp, Pastor, Grace Fellowship Church, Hazle Township.
http://www.challies.com/media/Sexual_Detox_-_A_Guide_for_the_Single_Guy.pdf
III. BOOKS FOR MEN
A. False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual AddictionBy: Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg
We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. False intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.
B. Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood
By: Nate Larkin
Too many men see the biblical hero Samson as their model for manhood--a rugged individualist of the highest order. Yet, Samson's solitary successes were eventually overcome by moral weaknesses. Larkin, through the story of his own past and the stories of those in The Samson Society, offers a radical, refreshing alternative.
C. Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus
By: Russell Willingham
Russell Willingham speaks from his own experience and that of the many he has counseled. His answer? "Yes! There is hope. Jesus offers forgiveness and healing." True stories show how the principles in this book can be put into action. The essentials are spelled out in practical steps that can help people begin to break free.
D. Sexual Sanity for Men. Re-Creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture
By: David White
Men, you can make sexually sane choices! Written for Christian men struggling with any form of sexual brokenness, Sexual Sanity for Men: Re-Creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture by David White helps men understand that sexual sin starts in their minds and hearts. It shows them how knowing Christ breaks their chains, builds spiritual brotherhood, and helps them take practical steps to re-create their minds in a God-focused direction. The Sexual Sanity for Men workbook is ideal for one-on-one mentoring, college age discipleship groups, and men's small group study and is produced by Harvest USA, a ministry bringing the truth and mercy of Jesus Christ to help men, women, and families affected by sexual struggles and sin and equip churches to minister to sexually broken people. The easy-to-use Leader's Guide is available in a handy eBook format.
IV. BOOKS FOR WOMEN
A. An Affair of the Mind
By: Laurie Hall
This book tells the story of one woman’s struggle to protect herself and her children from the devastating effects of her husband’s pornography. The Hall’s story is not an isolated case, nor has the final chapter been written. But it is an amazing testimony to the growth and restoration that come when God opens unseeing eyes to the truth.
B. Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars
By: Marsha Means
This book offers specific, proactive steps readers can take in their journey toward wholeness. They’ll learn how to find the support they need, grieve the losses of sexual betrayal, focus on their own spiritual growth, and move toward forgiveness and moving on.
C. When His Secret Sin Breaks your Heart
By: Kathy Gallagher
In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heart-felt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30-day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathy’s letters. There is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.
D. Pursuing the Pearl: The Quest for a Pure, Passionate Marriage
By: Dannah Gresh
The marriage relationship is meant to be a portrait of Christ’s love for the church. So what goes so wrong? The author teaches readers how to get the "junk" out of their marriage that is impeding a pure heart that vigorously pursues Christ. As satan’s "fake pearls" are revealed, you’ll be introduced to the pursuit of purity, the Pearl of Great Price.
E. Every Woman's Battle
By: Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Alternburn
When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.
F. Can My Marriage Survive Pornography? Help and Encouragement for Hurting Wives.
By: Kyria www.kyria.com
If you find yourself in a moment of mistrust, discouragement, distance, or hopelessness in your marriage due to pornography, turn to God for strength and sustenance.
Find insights and encouragement in these articles. Seek the counsel of your pastor or a trusted Christian friend. The reality is that this struggle is extremely common—and that
you are likely surrounded by marriages who’ve survived it and healed! You are not alone. Others have made it through. God continues to love you—and your husband—with his wonder-working love.
G. Sexual Sanity for Women. Healing from Sexual and Relational Brokenness
By: Ellen Dykas – Harvest USA
This book and workbook guides participants through the process of understanding why they struggle with destructive relational and sexual patterns and how the gospel brings change and a new way of living. Twenty lessons guide participants to understand God's good design for sexuality, the underlying reasons they struggle with sexual brokenness, and how the grace and truth of Jesus Christ can be applied to their struggles. Change begins as deeper heart issues are uncovered, and women learn that they are well-loved daughters of God who will find healing and wholeness as they live out God's Word in their relationships. The Sexual Sanity for Women workbook is ideal for a one-on-one mentoring, college age student groups, and women's small group study. The easy-to-use Sexual Sanity for Women Leader's Guide is available in a handy eBook format, offering leaders notes, answers to questions, and suggestions on how to guide participants in understanding Gods good design for sexuality.
H. When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart By: Vicki Tiede
When your husband's addiction to pornography leaves you shattered, betrayed, and alone, where do you turn? Who do you turn to? Vicki Tiede, writing from personal experience, gently guides women toward God and away from despair. Through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness, you will grow in healing and hope. Allowing God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, but he promises to help you every step of the way. Questions and daily readings are suitable for both individuals and small groups.
V. BOOKS FOR COUPLES:
A. Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital AffairsBy: Dave Carder
There is hope for recovery from the devastation of extramarital affairs. The author provides an overall recovery process from sexual and non-sexual affairs.
B. Pure DesireBy: Ted Roberts
Pure Desire aids men and women who have tried to build sexual holiness in their lives and failed. This book is also for the shattered souls of mates who are puzzled, shamed and wounded by their husband’s or wife’s sexual bondage and secret life. And, this book is for the church to come alongside those who have come to them for help.
VI. BOOKS FOR SINGLES:
A. Every Single Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle
By: Stephen Alternburn and Fred Stoeker
Through an honest and clear exploration of God’s Word, you'll undertake a personal journey into key scriptures, wrestle with questions for reflection and examination, and discover the practical tools and biblical strategies you need to live the pure life God calls you to—even while living in a sexually-soaked culture.
B. Every Young Woman's Battle
By: Stephen Alterburn and Shannon Ethridge
The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it’s easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there.
C. Sex and the Soul of a Woman
By: Paula Rinehart
This book will help you to understand the high price a woman pays in loosening her sexual boundaries, and the unique role sex plays in forging a bond meant to last a lifetime. The author shows women how to break free from the bondage of misused sexuality and create a new beginning in their relationships with men.
D. Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality
By: Doug Rosenau and Michael Todd Wilson
The authors tackle difficult topics from a biblical foundation to help single adults establish practical models for maintaining purity and creating a healthy sexuality. With real-life personal stories, Soul Virgins helps singles accept their sexuality as a godly discipline.
Most books may be ordered from www.cbd.com or www.amazon.com. Although MTW does not necessarily endorse the entire content of the above resources, we hope you are able to glean the information and counsel within them to help you experience the victory and grace that is found in Christ.
A. AVG family safetyThis was rated the number one resource in 2012 to protect from looking at from unsuitable websites
and monitoring web-searches searches. Available for both computers and mobile devices.
B. www.covenanteyes.com
This Accountability software monitors Internet use and emails reports to people you select. It also blocks objectionable websites from your computer.
C. http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2346997,00.aspThis is a comprehensive list filters and blocks as of 12/11.
II. PDF article (free)Sexual Detox- A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn By: Tim Challies. In a short, compressed format Challies identifies the toxic nature of this sin and offers practical, doable and, above all, gospel-centered hope for men. "I want every man I serve and all the guys on our staff to read this book."-- Tedd Tripp, Pastor, Grace Fellowship Church, Hazle Township.
http://www.challies.com/media/Sexual_Detox_-_A_Guide_for_the_Single_Guy.pdf
III. BOOKS FOR MEN
A. False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual AddictionBy: Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg
We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. False intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.
B. Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood
By: Nate Larkin
Too many men see the biblical hero Samson as their model for manhood--a rugged individualist of the highest order. Yet, Samson's solitary successes were eventually overcome by moral weaknesses. Larkin, through the story of his own past and the stories of those in The Samson Society, offers a radical, refreshing alternative.
C. Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus
By: Russell Willingham
Russell Willingham speaks from his own experience and that of the many he has counseled. His answer? "Yes! There is hope. Jesus offers forgiveness and healing." True stories show how the principles in this book can be put into action. The essentials are spelled out in practical steps that can help people begin to break free.
D. Sexual Sanity for Men. Re-Creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture
By: David White
Men, you can make sexually sane choices! Written for Christian men struggling with any form of sexual brokenness, Sexual Sanity for Men: Re-Creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture by David White helps men understand that sexual sin starts in their minds and hearts. It shows them how knowing Christ breaks their chains, builds spiritual brotherhood, and helps them take practical steps to re-create their minds in a God-focused direction. The Sexual Sanity for Men workbook is ideal for one-on-one mentoring, college age discipleship groups, and men's small group study and is produced by Harvest USA, a ministry bringing the truth and mercy of Jesus Christ to help men, women, and families affected by sexual struggles and sin and equip churches to minister to sexually broken people. The easy-to-use Leader's Guide is available in a handy eBook format.
IV. BOOKS FOR WOMEN
A. An Affair of the Mind
By: Laurie Hall
This book tells the story of one woman’s struggle to protect herself and her children from the devastating effects of her husband’s pornography. The Hall’s story is not an isolated case, nor has the final chapter been written. But it is an amazing testimony to the growth and restoration that come when God opens unseeing eyes to the truth.
B. Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars
By: Marsha Means
This book offers specific, proactive steps readers can take in their journey toward wholeness. They’ll learn how to find the support they need, grieve the losses of sexual betrayal, focus on their own spiritual growth, and move toward forgiveness and moving on.
C. When His Secret Sin Breaks your Heart
By: Kathy Gallagher
In this collection of letters, Kathy imparts heart-felt encouragement by providing the practical, biblical answers that helped her find healing in the midst of her most trying storm. The 30-day journal offers wives a place to prayerfully reflect and meditate upon Kathy’s letters. There is hope for the most dejected of souls and the bleakest of marriages.
D. Pursuing the Pearl: The Quest for a Pure, Passionate Marriage
By: Dannah Gresh
The marriage relationship is meant to be a portrait of Christ’s love for the church. So what goes so wrong? The author teaches readers how to get the "junk" out of their marriage that is impeding a pure heart that vigorously pursues Christ. As satan’s "fake pearls" are revealed, you’ll be introduced to the pursuit of purity, the Pearl of Great Price.
E. Every Woman's Battle
By: Shannon Ethridge and Stephen Alternburn
When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.
F. Can My Marriage Survive Pornography? Help and Encouragement for Hurting Wives.
By: Kyria www.kyria.com
If you find yourself in a moment of mistrust, discouragement, distance, or hopelessness in your marriage due to pornography, turn to God for strength and sustenance.
Find insights and encouragement in these articles. Seek the counsel of your pastor or a trusted Christian friend. The reality is that this struggle is extremely common—and that
you are likely surrounded by marriages who’ve survived it and healed! You are not alone. Others have made it through. God continues to love you—and your husband—with his wonder-working love.
G. Sexual Sanity for Women. Healing from Sexual and Relational Brokenness
By: Ellen Dykas – Harvest USA
This book and workbook guides participants through the process of understanding why they struggle with destructive relational and sexual patterns and how the gospel brings change and a new way of living. Twenty lessons guide participants to understand God's good design for sexuality, the underlying reasons they struggle with sexual brokenness, and how the grace and truth of Jesus Christ can be applied to their struggles. Change begins as deeper heart issues are uncovered, and women learn that they are well-loved daughters of God who will find healing and wholeness as they live out God's Word in their relationships. The Sexual Sanity for Women workbook is ideal for a one-on-one mentoring, college age student groups, and women's small group study. The easy-to-use Sexual Sanity for Women Leader's Guide is available in a handy eBook format, offering leaders notes, answers to questions, and suggestions on how to guide participants in understanding Gods good design for sexuality.
H. When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart By: Vicki Tiede
When your husband's addiction to pornography leaves you shattered, betrayed, and alone, where do you turn? Who do you turn to? Vicki Tiede, writing from personal experience, gently guides women toward God and away from despair. Through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness, you will grow in healing and hope. Allowing God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, but he promises to help you every step of the way. Questions and daily readings are suitable for both individuals and small groups.
V. BOOKS FOR COUPLES:
A. Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital AffairsBy: Dave Carder
There is hope for recovery from the devastation of extramarital affairs. The author provides an overall recovery process from sexual and non-sexual affairs.
B. Pure DesireBy: Ted Roberts
Pure Desire aids men and women who have tried to build sexual holiness in their lives and failed. This book is also for the shattered souls of mates who are puzzled, shamed and wounded by their husband’s or wife’s sexual bondage and secret life. And, this book is for the church to come alongside those who have come to them for help.
VI. BOOKS FOR SINGLES:
A. Every Single Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle
By: Stephen Alternburn and Fred Stoeker
Through an honest and clear exploration of God’s Word, you'll undertake a personal journey into key scriptures, wrestle with questions for reflection and examination, and discover the practical tools and biblical strategies you need to live the pure life God calls you to—even while living in a sexually-soaked culture.
B. Every Young Woman's Battle
By: Stephen Alterburn and Shannon Ethridge
The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it’s easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there.
C. Sex and the Soul of a Woman
By: Paula Rinehart
This book will help you to understand the high price a woman pays in loosening her sexual boundaries, and the unique role sex plays in forging a bond meant to last a lifetime. The author shows women how to break free from the bondage of misused sexuality and create a new beginning in their relationships with men.
D. Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality
By: Doug Rosenau and Michael Todd Wilson
The authors tackle difficult topics from a biblical foundation to help single adults establish practical models for maintaining purity and creating a healthy sexuality. With real-life personal stories, Soul Virgins helps singles accept their sexuality as a godly discipline.
Most books may be ordered from www.cbd.com or www.amazon.com. Although MTW does not necessarily endorse the entire content of the above resources, we hope you are able to glean the information and counsel within them to help you experience the victory and grace that is found in Christ.